Anybody out there with a teenage son?

I have an almost 17 year old son who is driving me crazy. It's like he can't stay home. He calls me at work numerous times a day to ask if he can go here, do that, can so-and-so come over, blah blah blah. It never stops.





Last night he spent the night with a friend (after having friends over to our house the night before). Just now he called me to say he's on his way home, and then ANOTHER friend is coming to pick him up to go do something else. He's already got plans for tonight as well.





He's always plotting and planning things, and he's always just a little bit vague about what's going on. I trust him, and yet part of me really worries about what he's up to. I know I have to let him grow up, but are there any other parents out there who are frustrated with teens who just can't seem to sit still?Anybody out there with a teenage son?
As long as you stay involved, you trust him, and you know where he is and what he's doing (more or less). I really wouldn't be too concerned about this. It's pretty lame for a teen boy to being hanging out around the house when he could be hanging out with friends. If his friends are cool, and they aren't leading him astray, then it's a good thing that he's fortunate to have so many friends.


As to his never sitting still, set some ground rules. At least once or twice a week, have family time. Sit down, eat supper, do a movie, play a game, whatever, so long as he is at home, with family, for a specified amount of time. Don't be surprised when he bolts for the door at one minute past family time.Anybody out there with a teenage son?
I have a 16-year-old son too but he's pretty much the opposite--he's very laid back and a ';homebody';. I wish he WOULD go out more!!!! LOL
i have a 17, 15, 12 , 2, 11 month old, at 17 thats what they do, didn't you, but i insist on knowing the who, what, where and when,
what do you want him sit still, if he behaves and you trust him let him enjoy the summer and vacation time, it's not the end of the world....we all were like that when we were teens, just ask him to be more specific about where his going to be, with whom, and set a carefew that works good for you and for him. He's just having fun!
Yes, my son does the same thing. Drives me nuts among all the other teenage things that makes me want to run away sometimes!! LOL





It's hard to be too over-protective, but in the world we live in today, you can't help but worry and it is our job to keep them safe. So it is important to know who he's with and what they are up too.





I just try to come in and talk to him and his friends when they are at my house, just to get a sense of what kind of friends he has. I try not to be too nosy or stay too long (they hang out in our garage) but just long enough to bring them a snack (the best way to get his friends to like you is food) and joke with them a little. I do talk to the friends parents too, it's good to have somewhat of a relationship with them.
I'm almost 13 and I am getting to that stage. I call my Father a lot during the day to ask him this or that. I'm sure it's just a phase. And if it drives you that much just remember he will be out of your hair ing about a year. lol
i think its good hes has a social life


i mean if he still has good grades and he does go to work


then hes just livin HIS life


when he brings friends over make the best of it.


lifes short so u should have fun with ur friends too


:]
I have a 14 year old daughter and two younger children- and my 14 year old daughter drives me insane! She is alot like your son- always on the go, always with friends. She always needs a ride to and from places, etc. Sometimes I just want to say ';You know what? Your bike is in the garage..';...and sometimes I do. :]
Yes, my son is 16 and my stepchildren are 13, 14 , 16 %26amp; 17.


My son is driving me crazy. He does a lot of what you are describing too. He has never really gotten into trouble except he doesn't want to go to school. He thinks he can drop out but still get a good job. (yeah right!) Now he's talking about getting a drivers liscence. I said go to school first than we'll talk, so now I'm mean.





I think children are on this earth to drive us crazy. as we did our parents. One thing to keep in mind. Be glad he calls and tells you what he is doing. When he stops calling is when you should really worry.
I have 2 teen-age boys. It sounds like you're describing my life. I think this is normal behavior, as kids get older and their circle of friends expands outside of the neighborhood that they live in or the street they live on.


If you want to look on the bright side: He does call you to get permission. He's not sneaking off. I think the vagueness, is simply that he doesn't know himself exactly what his plans are. He just knows that he's going to meet up with so-and-so and hang out.
All that socializing is what being a teenager is all about. It's in his biology. His peers are more important to him (he thinks) than his parents are, right now. Know who his friends are, and have them over to your place as often as you can so you are at least able to keep an eye on him part of the time. Talk with him often about what he's up to and what his goals are. He's still only 16 so you can say ';no'; to situations that you are not comfortable with, by the way. He may hate you for the moment, but in the long run, things are better when you keep your kid out of dangerous situations.





If nothing else, keep him just a little short on funds and you'll at least know he's always going to come home when he's hungry!