How do I get my teenage daughter to abide by my rules and show so respect?

My daughter has become a nightmare and I have no say on what she does or who she does it with. She is never home when I ask her, she stays on the internet half way through the night and she now has a boyfriend. When she doesnt get her own way or I try to sop her from doing things she has recently started to slash her arms out of furstration. Im at the end of my tether and dont know what to do.How do I get my teenage daughter to abide by my rules and show so respect?
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They also have a website if you want to look for it.How do I get my teenage daughter to abide by my rules and show so respect?
She needs to understand what shes dealing with and not underestimate you. Simply disconnect the Internet before you go to bed or take away the keyboard or mouse. It might be a bit of a fad but it must be done. Give her a warning that if she isn't back by the time you ask her to be that it will be the last time she goes out for a while. Remember, she wont do these things if she doesn't have the privileges. About the boyfriend, talk to her about it without losing it, explain to her you only want to meet him but don't be to harsh, she just needs to see you aren't trying to wreck her life, but shes still young and you need to have some authority. And for the self harming I suggest councelling.
Sounds like a case of ';raging hormones';, there are probably few parents of teenage girls who have not gone through this. Most of the time it is caused by sheer frustration, their bodies are changing and they don't know what is happening to them and rebellion seem s to be the best option. Try talking to her calmly about how she feels, what she thinks, where does she think her life is going. If you can persuade her to talk to a counsellor, I'm sure it would help. Good Luck.
OMG if my kid ever disrespected me id slap her in the face. she can call the police but does the police feed her and put a roof over her head? id take away the computer , phone , door , and anything else she likes. the whole slashing her arms is shes having a temper . ignore her and start showing whos boss in the house
well maybe talk to her i used to be like that until i opened up to my foster parents and this is sort of different but i can see where she's coming from the only way is to get her to open up to you. email me if this helps or if you have any questions about my answer.
well im a teen so i know tht sometimes the best way is to let them have ther way but limit the time tht thay r doing it like say she wunted to go to the mall say she can but tell her to b bac by a specific time and if she doesent do this take all her **** and put it on the front lawn then if she wunts her stuff bac she can carry it all in by herself c if she acts up again oh ya and if u do any of this tell ur doghter im srry for putting these ideas in ur head
you are right


take her to a Dr and let him arrange for her to get the help she needs


if she refuses go to children and family services and get them involved as she is a disaster waiting to happen
You need to get tough. If she goes out without permission, you go find her and bring her back home. By not doing anything to control her, you're enabling her behavior.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCE3mCXLoLI May give you some insight on your question (i think it'll help a bunch)
send her but over to military school :] Print out a make acceptance letter and that should make her get nice becuz my aunt did that to my cousin %26gt;%26lt; it worked
Send ehr little hethen *** to bootcamp...
Creat time to know her feelings...
Its called tough love...bootcamp
just start to ignore her. let her do what she pleases, don't make her food or clean up for her.