Wednesday, November 23, 2011

Why do teenage moms drop out of school?

I know that they do it to take care of the baby. But isnt it something else to it. Thank cuz im in the 12th grade and doing a paper. Plz help!! Dont tell me to do it myself please i would do it myself i new some of the reasons they drop out of school. andi did do research on it but they didnt tell me nothing about it. Please help me. Thank you!Why do teenage moms drop out of school?
-stress


-getting up ever mourning at 5 is becoming a burden since pregnant young girls and woman need a lot of rest.


-all those raging hormones going through your body.


-clothes[i know a girl who didn't have any clothes that were descent to go to school in,so that layed another burden on her]


-maybe they want to finish education after the baby is born so that its better for them.


-they need a job to save up before and after the baby is here.Why do teenage moms drop out of school?
1)can't deal with this narrow minded society





2) baby needs constant care.
Well some parents make there kids drop out to take care of them there self's. Some of the teen moms cant afford daycare when they are at school. There might not be an Alternative school around them for teen mothers so they really have no other option. Too much stress. Pressure, and stress.
I think a lot of pregnant teens drop out of high school because they lack a support system. They feel like it is completely up to them to care of the child. Older women usually feel like they can turn to others for help, a friend, their partner, their mom, but teens don't seem to think like this. They think they are alone, i believe this is also a reason younger mothers seem to get more depressed. Being pregnant in high school is a little embarrassing, but many learn to get over that. By the way, I am in high school and know several moms who are continuing their education.
Becasue they have to get a job instead.
I am thinking it is because school adds stress and their embarrassed? I don't really know because you'd think they'd stay in so they would have an education so they could provide for the baby.
Because school adds to the pressure and stress. Having a baby is hard enough when your young and if your trying to balance that and school its tough. too much to handle. Trying to worry about good grades and doing the homework. Stress stress stress! pressure,pressure pressure!
I have had two friends who were pregnant while in school. One girls parents made her quit and get a job because ';she already ruined her life.'; She eventually got her GED and went on to further her education. She is doing fine now. The other quit because it's a small town and the board recommended it. Granted this was almost 15 years ago. It's a little different now.
Teenage mothers drop out of school, because they think it is too hard to raise a baby and get an education.
In addition to the fact that they have to physically be there for there bay, they also need to start buying a lot of things for a baby like diapers and clothes, and various other things. that being said, they have to get a job to be able to afford all of that stuff. The average first born child in a low income family (in other words they are buying cheap things, not expensive things) will cost over $20,000 in the first year, and that is after the hospital.





In addition to those, i think there is a lot of embarrassment the the still pregnant mother feels walking around school pregnant. If your pregnant in high school, you stick out. People stair. they KNOW that your sexually active. Having strangers know about your sex life is not a great feeling. Plus they always feel like others are judging them. They assume that people think they are a whore, or a sinner or what ever else. Also When your pregnant you gain a lot of weight. And i don't know a single teen girl who feels good about her body when she gains a lot of weight.





To sum up, a) to take care of the baby b) to afford the baby c) they are embarrassed.





Hope i helped!


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because they're stupid and dont care. same reason they had the baby
A lot of times, their parents refuse to help them raise the baby (believing that it is best for the teenage mom) and so the child is forced to drop out of school to take care of them.





Also, if the mom is going to a not-so-good school, then they're scared for the baby's safety. Or they're getting horribly taunted and teased and they can't take it anymore.





Good luck on your paper!
most teenage moms have to get a job to support her and her child and don't get much support from the dad because he just calls her a **** and doesn't pay child support or has a minimum wage job. If he has a good job that means he probably doesn't have much time to spend with the child. also the mom's parents aren't usually accepting and probably won't babysit. all this together prevents the mom from going to school. but if you can make it through this your a strong person.
Some schools recommend they leave as to not promote sexual activity or give the other kids ideas





Some don't have enough support from family to help care for the baby so they can stay in school





Others are labeled a ho or easy and abused and talked about





others are an embarrassment to their families so they stay home...less grief





Some go on welfare to help pay for what the baby needs and the hospital bill
welp some have to take care of there baby becuase there parents are working and dont want to take care of the baby. or they have to get a job. sometimes they have there baby stay out of school for a year then come back when there baby can go into day care. (thats what my friend did) they might feel to much pressure and not accepted by there peers anymore. good luck with your paper
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  • What should I be for halloween? I want a cute costume, but not too slutty.. (teenage girl) Ideas?

    I don't want to spend much money if any, but I want a good costume! Any help?What should I be for halloween? I want a cute costume, but not too slutty.. (teenage girl) Ideas?
    be a cat, you can be cute and sexy. if you want a good idea about how to do the makeup, go to you tube and type in Kitty Cat Makeup for Halloween (tutorial), and then you could add some ears and a tail to your costume with a black dress or black leggings and a black shirt. anyways good luck and happy halloween!What should I be for halloween? I want a cute costume, but not too slutty.. (teenage girl) Ideas?
    i am being a cute nerd.


    im wearing short jean shorts, a plad shirt, suspenders, putting my hair in pig pails, and wearing those big glasses. depending on how you wear everything, it wont be too slutty.

    Which car insurance company is best with a teenage driver?

    i am 16 and i am considering buying a 1999-2004 mustang or maybe a firebird or camaro from about the same time and i know the insurance is going to be high. 1) how much of a difference will it make if its listed as my parents' car and im just a driver rather than it being my car and 2) which auto insurance company is best for discounts from drivers ed, my gpa(4.0 thank you very much),and maybe a defense driving course or something like that.


    thanks in advance everyone!!!Which car insurance company is best with a teenage driver?
    Just get a quote through insure.com or progressive.com. You'll get 10 offers in your email.Which car insurance company is best with a teenage driver?
    At your age, your only option is being added to your parents insurance.
    you are ******!!


    the most expensive car insurance in america is for a 16 year old male, they do0nt care how high your gpa is
    It will be a huge difference.. by hundreds. Try going through a broker to find the right one that fits for the kind of coverage you are looking for. i am 24 and im still under my moms insurance. 25-27 is the age to go on your own. i currently have statefarm. progressive is pretty good too. try some quotes online.

    What a teenage boy get for this step-father for father's day?

    okay so father's day is coming up. besides a card, what can a 15yr get his step-father for Father's day? they are not very close and get along with each other about 40% of the time and budget for gift will be around $20 (budget would be more if they got along great)What a teenage boy get for this step-father for father's day?
    gift cards for a place that he enjoys or would like to get something from would be nice..then he can get something he really wants... or you can get a DQ card and they can go for Ice Cream... or you can get him an Ice Cream Cake from DQ and a gift card to somewhere.. or get a gift card to his favorite restaurant and he don't have to pay for himself and let him get whatever his heart desires like a steak or whatever.. and you pay for your sons way and yours if you go also. Or you can get on line and buy tickets to an amusement park and give him the printout in an envelope if the tickets don't come in time..What a teenage boy get for this step-father for father's day?
    My husband likes to work on model cars, and enjoys NASCAR.


    Last year my sons got him a car model he had been wanting.


    This year they went to the NASCAR web site and got him a shirt of his favorite driver.


    I would suggest something along that line - a smaller gift regarding something your husband is interested in.
    Judge what you are are going to give by what he already has. Here is a example a friends wife bought him a Winchester 30-30 for his birthday and I bought him a box of ammo. Find out what he would like to have but ordinarily wouldn't buy himself is a good rule too.
    Dads love T-shirts. Dadtastic.net has some great ones.
    Have a look on this site for some ideas
    just get him a card

    What are some good dicipline methods for a teenage son giving attitude to his parents?

    Please say something that makes sense its for a project.Thank youWhat are some good dicipline methods for a teenage son giving attitude to his parents?
    If he's old enough to drive, take away his car or his privilege of using the car.





    If he watches a lot of TV or play video games, etc. take them away for a period of time.





    If he goes out with friends, make him stay home.





    If he gets an allowance, take that away.





    Basically, look at everything he's allowed to do or has been given as a privilege that can be taken away. When he cops an attitude, take something valuable away from him. (And I don't necessarily mean valuable as in money). Make sure he understands how he is expected to behave and the any deviation will result in something being taken away. If there's something he is upset about he needs to learn to speak with control and leave the attitude on the doorstep.What are some good dicipline methods for a teenage son giving attitude to his parents?
    I come from a Hispanic family and I can tell you that the only discipline that I got was a good can of whoop-a@@. I did something wrong, my mom told me it was wrong and I had to explain to her why it was wrong and then she grabbed the belt and spanked the holy hell out of me. Now a days, this is considered child abuse. Yeah, and then you wonder why todays teenagers are out of control and stuff. It is because the parents are affraid that they might get their kids taken away by the state because they were disciplining them. When my kids act up ( I have a 7 year old boy and 14 year old girl), I make them go get my belt from my room and I open up a can of whoop-a@@.
    i would say; ';son there is only one man and one woman in this house; since u have an attitude and don't want to listen, it sounds as if u need to be emancipated. let's go downtown (whereever court room may be.) to make it happen
    Simply ignore him when he talks in a disrespectful way. He will soon get frustrated and realize if he wants anything or attention he will have to watch his mouth

    About how many calories a day for a teenage girl?

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    This is a fun site...Just fill in the information as you go and you're on your way...good luck!

    What do teenage boys like to get as presents?

    I need the answer as soon as I can so please answer!!What do teenage boys like to get as presents?
    Buy a Best Buy gift card. You can't go wrong. Cash also is generally a very accepted present. Not personal at all but effective. Good luck!What do teenage boys like to get as presents?
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    Depends all on the kid, a skater may like new trucks, or a new board, a nerd/gamer may like a new keyboard/mouse or perhaps game, so forth you should decide of the teenagers interest.
    If you're a girlfriend, something unique that would make him think of you. Like some framed pictures or something that you made.
    you could get him some links or bodywash and stuff boys like that kind of thing, you could also buy him a topman gift voucher or something as such
    sEx or anything remotely related to sEx
    Video games.
    It depends what they like. I would've appreciated Best Buy or Borders gift cards.
    ...teenage girls
    Oral sex.
    money
    yea moneys probably your best bet
    girlfrnds and french kisses
    laptop or maybe a kiss
    SHOES! ehem Nike
    a friend or someone to listen .and fast moving objects!
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  • Why are teenage guys so obsessed with virgins?

    is it because virgins are generally considered 'clean'? or because they're 'tight'? because i've heard that it hurts for guys to sleep with virgins sometimes because they're too 'tight'.Why are teenage guys so obsessed with virgins?
    I think it's more the fact of accomplishment they get out of taking that ';V-Card';. I'm not going to lie, as a teenage guy, I've taken the virginity of two girls. It most definitely isn't the best sex the first time, but it's nice to know you were their first. Kinda ups your swag, you could say.Why are teenage guys so obsessed with virgins?
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    guys wanna be the ones that get it first
    IDK

    Where can I find some research on a teenage girl during the 15th century in Italy?

    Handbook of Medieval Misericords


    Misericords: A hidden Gallery of Medieval Art


    William James Shadwell





    Contents


    1 ........................................ Introduction


    2 ........................................ Survival and Distribution


    3 ........................................ The Craftsmen and the Character of their Work


    4 ........................................ The Art Form


    5 ........................................ Dates and Dating





    Introduction


    Misericords are perhaps the most neglected of all the treasures to be found in the great Cathedrals and many churches in this country. They are the under-seat carvings in choir stalls.





    Visitors often enjoy the immediate impact of solid Norman architecture, or towering Gothic masonry, or the magnificent blaze of colour from a stained glass window, but the fascinating world of misericords remains largely unknown and undiscovered.





    In the choir, often the darkest part of the building, lies a treasury of Medieval art and social history which amply repays detailed study. The ideas expressed are mostly secular, and the carvings are cameos of rustic life, activities, customs, humour and beliefs from the early 13th century onwards. In what Art Gallery would one find scenes of Medieval life so naively and beautifully carved as these? Here are galleries of everyday happenings and interests bequeathed to us by our [humble] ancestors [of long ago preserved] for all who take the trouble to look for them and lift the seats to examine them.





    The seats are irreplaceable and highly valued by the Cathedrals and churches which house them, and permission should be sought before lifting them, and great care taken in handling them.





    When you enter the Choir of such a church you will probably admire the intricately carved canopies over the stalls, but fail to see the misericords because the hinges seats are often left down or because the Choir stalls are corded off. (plate ...).





    The Choir with its stalls was the most important and sacred part of the medieval church, and the most particular and detailed work was put into it. The stalls consist of a lifting seat (the misericord), a book rest (prie dieu), a partition between each stall (parclose), an elbow rest on the partition, often finishing in a carved subject which gave extra support to standing, a back panel and a canopy (baldaquin) usually very elaborately carved. The two latter and the partition, which had replaced earlier curtains, helped to keep out the cold draughts from the aisle and a glassless triforium.





    The word 'misericord' ('misere' is sometimes used) is derived from Latin 'misericordia' = pity of the heart = act of mercy, and was applied originally to anything permitted to an infirm person out of consideration for his weakness. Other 'miscericords' accorded to sick and elderly clerics were milk (?), a blanket in winter and meat in Lent.





    The main function of cathedrals and monastic and collegiate churches in medieval times was not services for the laity, but the conducting of two daily masses and the eight Divine Offices: matins, laud, prime, terce, sext, nones, vespers and compline, starting in the early hours (3.00 AM - perhaps) and finishing about 11.00 PM, said by monks and canons in cold, unheated choirs. Prayers were recited standing with hands uplifted. There were 42 occasions of standing and in addition each priest said daily at least one private mass, again standing. Extra to all this were the masses said for the souls of departed benefactors. Clearly, such physical demands were often too great for the sick and aged clerics, so crutches ('reclinatoria') were first allowed, then 'elbows' on the partitions between the stalls and finally misericords.





    These were at first plain pivoted seats with small wooden brackets on the underside supporting a ledge extending from the front (plate ). During the periods of standing the worshipper hitched his seat on the ledge, so taking most of his weight of his legs. The ledges were sometimes called 'nodding seats' - if a monk nodded off, his seat would fall with a clatter as he bent forward and expose his lapse of concentration. Nearly all such seats have carved undersides, and it is these that make misericords so interesting. To most people these are the misericords.





    The best examples are pre-Reformation: 12th to 16th centuries, and it is with these that we are concerned. Post-Reformation misericords, usually termed 'modern', are more realistic in a literal sense, but lack the simplicity, the intriguing naivety and spontaneous vitality of the medieval ones. In this country hundreds are over 700 years old, thousands well over 400 years old.








    Survival and Distribution


    At the reformation in England and Wales there was great destruction and loss of medieval church treasures at the time of the Dissolution of the monasteries 1536 - 1553 in Henry VIII's reign.





    Much of their dearly loved and treasured furniture, including stalls and misericords, was destroyed or lost, or was distributed among humble neighbouring churches who might have been glad of them. Because of their relative obscurity under the seats, misericords probably suffered less destruction than most of the other furniture, and this gives them a rather special role as records of the art and interests of common folk ';written'; by themselves. Fortunately most Cathedrals, a number of Abbeys, Priories and Collegiate Churches and a few chapels attached to charitable institutions retained their original furniture.





    However, for various reasons considerable numbers of misericords which survived the Dissolution of the Monasteries have since disappeared for ever. In the spate of image smashing during the Puritan Commonwealth the damage to misericords was surprisingly limited, possibly because they were not noticed by the Puritan iconoclasts, or not seen as ';images';, or religious carvings at all. The infamous ';image smasher'; Dowsing was untiring in Dorset in destroying wood and stone carvings as well as ';images'; and stained glass, denuding many churches of the region of their old treasure. Some have suffered from neglect, some from vandalism. In 1829 a lunatic started a fire in the Choir of York Minster, destroying all but two of its ancient misericords. Restorations also caused losses. At King's Lynn the order to burn the stallwork fortunately was disobeyed by the carpenter employed in the restoration and the set was paced with the British Museum. No doubt some loss or damage occurred when stalls were moved and resited in a restoration. For instance, at Worcester Cathedral in the 18th Century there were 52 Misericords, now there are 39 (plus 4 modern). In 1551 the stalls were dismantled, stored in the tower, and later set up in new positions. In the early 19th Century some were cut out to form a cornice to the screen erected at the entrance to the Choir. In 1865 the screen was removed in a major restoration when the misericords were restored to their original positions.Some new seats had to be constructed and their misericords were set into new frames. In a major Victorian restoration most of the seriously decayed misericords at Old Malton (Yorkshire) were removed and replaced by copies.





    ';Moral rectitude'; disposed of some - at Chester Cathedral a Victorian Dean had five destroyed on the grounds that they were indecent. Twelve very interesting misericords were lost when Coventry Cathedral was destroyed by enemy action in 1940. Theft accounts for some recent losses.





    Considering their age and vulnerability however, they have suffered surprising little damage. Most are in excellent condition.





    Most Cathedrals and and Abbeys contain misericords and of our 18,000 parish churches, half of which date from Medieval times, more than in any other country, hundreds poses them, giving a total of over 3,500. Ireland, Scotland and Wales together have only 15 churches containing misericords with a total between them of 179. A number of museums and some private houses have a few. Eg. Victoria and Albert Museum, London possess 31, most in storage.





    The best information on the distribution of misericords is G.L.Remnant's ';Catalogue of Misericords in Great Britain'; (Oxford University Press) which lists known misericords, where they are to be found, and gives basic information: description, age, origin. This book is indispensable if you wish to find misericords for yourself.





    In France there are perhaps 8,000 largely uncatalogued. Belgium, Germany and Switzerland posses some, as well as a few Eastern European countries in the Catholic tradition. Italy and Spain have very few - their winters being less cold, their Choirs would have been warmer, and so the frequency of standing less demanding.





    Misericords are widely distributed, with concentrations in the West Country, East Anglia and Yorkshire, areas whose wealth was based on the Medieval wool trade. Most Cathedrals and Abbeys, but not all, have some. For example those at Canterbury are modern, carved for a Victorian restoration; those at Rochester are all plain - a simple bracket supporting the ledge.





    Over 50 sets are of 20 or more. The largest collections are at: Sailsbury Cathedral 106, all alike, of floral design; St George's Chapel, Windsor 96; Lincoln Cathedral 92, Beverly Minster, and King's College Chapel, Cambridge, 68 each; Winchester Cathedral 66; Ely Cathedral 65; Chester and Wells Cathedrals, 64 each; Boston, St Botolph's Norwich Cathedral and New College Chapel Oxford, 62 each; Henry's VII's Chapel, Westminster Abbey 53; Exeter Cathedral 50; Carlisle and Gloucester Cathedrals, 46 each; Worcester Cathedral 42; Hereford Cathdral 40. Four Oxford University Chapels between them have 167. The best and oldest are in Exeter Cathedral, Probable date 1238-44, and Winchester Cathedral c.1305.








    The Craftsmen and the Character of their Work


    After about 1100 there was a sudden development in Europe of practical skill and inventiveness in all fields of crafts, especially in that of individual work. The ';spirit of the times'; found expression in the rapid and remarkable flowering of the Gothic Style, and craftsmen came to be held in high regard. It is a modern vanity to believe that only our own age has originality and individuality. The general conception that medieval men were more savage and brutish than ourselves is only partly true, there was as much sensitivity and awareness of beauty then as now, and quite as much liveliness of mind.








    Contrary to popular opinion monks did not do the carving or even the building of the great Churches and Cathedrals. Some would be employed in ';cloister crafts'; such as book illuminating, decorative alter work, shrine making and ivory carving.








    Bands of workmen were employed in the building of a Church, and when that work was completed would move to another site. Some were craftsmen who, as members of their Craft Guild, had been trained in carving skills and knew something of the traditions and legends of their time. Though there was more education for those who were above the level of serfs than is generally believed, text books and work manuals were rare, and theory and academic learning as we know them were non-existant. Craftsmen stored their minds with their skills and the knowledge of their craft. They were pious men who accepted the beliefs and observed the religious practices of their time, but much of their work reveals the richness and variety of individual personality.








    The best of them would have lived within the ';liberty'; of a great Church (ie within the area which it administered) where they were not hampered by the interference of civic authorities and the exactions of their tax collectors, so were free to pursue their craft and improve their individual skill, and since the Church was the great patron of excellence there was a greater range of opportunity here than elsewhere. Other good workmen would often attach themselves to a religious community ad there exercise their skills as lay brothers.








    In contrast to the villein who was ';tied'; to his lord and whose life was ';nasty, brutish and short';, the early medieval craftsman enjoyed considerable freedom, he was not one of a herd but would have been what today we would call professional middle class. He would have had a home of his own, and possibly a small shop or stall where he sold the products of his skill. A son would most probably learn his father's skills, and as his inheritance would follow his father's craft. Where interesting or rewarding work offered itself, as at the beautifying of an Abbey or Cathedral, he would live on the site together with other craftsmen till the work was completed, which might take several years.








    The best craftsmen were well enough known for their services to be in demand. After the stalls and misericords at Lincoln Cathedral were completed some of the craftsmen moved to Chester, probably via the Carmelitie monastery at Coventry, and Roche Abbey (Yorkshire), finding their skills in demand at each. The misericord carvings at Chester Cathedral of the legends of of Sir Yvain and of Tristan and Iseult (a very rare subject), and of the Green man, are so similar to those at Lincoln Cathedral that they are clearly the work of the same carver.








    After completing the roof of the apse and choir, always the part of the Church to be finalised first (roofs in the earlier Medieval period were of wood) the best craftsmen would work under the supervision of a ';master'; - himself trained and expert in the practical skills of his craft - who acted as ';adviser';. He planned and organised the beautiful and intricate carving in the choir, most of it repetitive. This work, part of the visual display of religion, was controlled by churchmen; the misericords were the carver's province where he could express his own individuality. He left intellectual matters and high thinking to his betters. (plate 2b)








    Cathedrals and churches were full of sermons in pictures (stained glass, wall paintings), sermons in stone (statuary, carved capitals, corbels, tympanums, fonts), and sermons in wood (stalls, screens, pulpits, bench ends) - all excellent visual aids, and all carefully controlled by the Church authorities in accordance with the requirements of a long established religious tradition.








    It is always surprising that so much ';secular'; is found in the Choir, the most sacred part of the church, reserved entirely for the use of the clergy. For example, of the 66 misericords in Winchester cathedral not one is religious in any way. The medieval mind clearly disliked plain surfaces, the long blank panels formed by the empty undersides of the tilting seats just had to be filled. Since religious themes were eschewed as being subjects not fit to suffer the indignity and scandal of being sat on, the carvers were given free choice of subjects for these clerically unimportant spaces. Many subjects reflect the daily activity, interests and customs of the common man. They constitute a record 'written' by men unaware that they were chronicling their times, influenced only by their own imagination, prompted by the beliefs and traditions of their own age, their own knowledge and observation, and their personal experience. There is little sophistication, some crudity, real fun, great freedom of choice and execution, and a lively spirit running through all their work. Since there was or no imitation or copying and massa production was unknown, there no stereotypes and no ostentation. They were unaware of fashions or style. All of their work is remarkably self conscious and displays a zest and vitality rarely found in later art till perhaps our own time. Thus seeing one set does not spoil one's enjoyment of another. Part of the pleasure in looking for misericords is in discovering the uniqueness of each set.








    Very little evidence of planning exists, that was an ecclesiastical monopoly beyond the capability of medieval craftsmen. There is only one coherent scheme preserved, that of the ';Kalendar of the Months'; of the agricultural year at Ripple (Worcestershire). (plates...) Even where there are related subjects in a set they rarely seem to have been fitted in sequence, but have been arranged haphazardly.








    It is not surprising then that no carvers names have been preserved, only an initial or two, and these probably of the supervising ';master';. Possibly an occasional ';mason's mark'; might have acted as a signature, as at Exeter Cathedral (plate 4) and at Ludlow (plate 5). The nearest we get to a name is in the 13th Century choir stalls at Winchester Cathedral, which are some of the finest in the country. These were carved by William Lyngwode who had been brought from Norwich where the reputation for his fine work in the Cathedral there had made him famous. Winchester wanted the work there ';to be as good as that work at Norwich, or better';. Emulation was as powerful an incentive then as it is now.








    The very fine misericords at Worcester Cathedral it is thought were carved by several craftsmen. Judging by the style of the work there seem to have been five: a simple, somewhat unskilful thought vigorous carver who chose animal subjects; a second, more skilful, who chose biblical or occupational themes and usually of three figures standing on plinths, as if he were carving in stone; another who favoured figures in architectural settings; a fourth who was partial to mythical beasts; and finally the best artist of the five, an educated and highly skilled craftsman who excelled at choosing and carving complex and sensitive themes.








    Some styles and subjects of early misericords are similar to those of stone carvings of capitals, corbels etc, indicating that many of the wood carvers had graduated from stone carving to carving in wood. Misericords were almost always carved in relief from a single block of oak, occasionally chestnut. Some carving is undercut. Many of which have been cut down in size and fastened to new seats. In such a move an original sequence could be disrupted; e.g in Great Malvern Priory Church the sequence of the ';Kalendar of Months'; was disturbed when the stalls were moved from the Chancel entry in the 19th Century and resited in their positions in the Choir.








    Except for the occasional and obvious village carpenter's work, the standard of workmanship is high. It is known that Medieval Craft Guilds set and maintained strict standards of excellence in all work produced by their craftsmen. Usually within a craft the same wages were paid to all, so only the best workmen came to be employed. These facts must be set in the wider atmosphere of the belief of the time that man in his creation of works must be like God who in his Creation made all things good. Even if the work was hidden it was meant to last and was to be pleasing to its creator and to God, since both man and what he made would have to face a final reckoning at the last Judgement.








    History books frequently use as illustrations of medieval life pictures taken from illuminated manuscripts of the period, but the old calligraphers and illustrators saw life from an angle different from that of the carvers, since they were usually monks with the withdrawn and enclosed clerical view of existence. Their pictures are intriguing but lack the sympathetic understanding and the fresh and loving observation of the carvers of misericords.








    The Art Form


    Misericords are a distinctive art form, arguably the most distinctive. English misericords have an energy and vitality second to none, and are remarkable for their individuality in style and arrangement, as well as in their subject matter. Especially characteristic is their delicacy of imagery.








    They consist of a central main subject forming the brace to the seat ledge, and very usually a supporter each side, sometimes called ';ears';. Those in Gloucester Cathedral are exceptional in having none. The supporters are often independent of the main subject, and not infrequently of each other. In some cases they are of greater interest than the main subject. Those in Winchester Cathedral are unusual in that they are larger than the main subject. Main subject and supporters may occupy their own independent spaces, but are more often connected by curved lines. In a few cases, as at Sherborne Abbey they merge to fill the whole surface in one design.








    The space occupied by the main subject, no more than a few inches in diameter, is usually triangular, rounded off at its lower apex, or trapezoidal. The area to be carved was thus limited, of unusual shape, and cut out in low relief, often less than 1 inch (25 mm) in depth; high relief is rare. Thus the medieval artist had to employ special techniques to present his subject, particularly if it was a scene involving several elements. Most misericords are fine pieces of design, original, arresting and highly skilled in execution. As such they are far from being crude folk art. Subjects are concise, economical and sharply focussed. Main features are often enlarged and given primacy of position. Emphasis on, or exaggeration of, some elements was employed, and some crowding, while great simplification was common and adornment was rare. Adaptations were ingenious: figures seated, kneeling, bowed, contorted. Legs, and tails, fitted well in to the base apex of the shape, wings in to the two top angles. Arrangement in scenes tested the skill of the carver to tell a tale.








    Supporters, rarely found on the Continent, are characteristically English. They began as scrolled extensions of the main subject, but soon gained their own independence. They are often carved in roundels. Many are conventional in design; foliage or flowers. Frequently faces, people, animals, dragons are chosen. The most interesting are simple scenes, especially those associated with the main subject, and are little works of art in their own right.








    Dates and Dating


    The best carving dates from the 14th and 15th centuries. The oldest misericords date from the early 13th century. Exeter cathedral has the oldest complete set in Britain, some dating from before 1230. Kidlington (Oxfordshire) has 5 simple misericords dating from late 13th into early 14th centuries.








    In dating accuracy is not easy. A few are documented from monastic records and from tradition. Assessment of age can be made from such characteristics as stylistic variation, especially of seat ledge shape, the oldest being plain and rounded. Later ledges are more angular, with edge mouldings. A rough guide to age would be as follows:








    13th century: semi-oval, shallow moulding





    14th century: more variety - concave sides, seat ledge dips





    Later 14 century: more complicated, seat plan having 4 or six sides, straight, or concave, with a projection at the front. This allowed the carver more scope, and subjects could become more elaborate.








    Crude village carpenters work gives the appearance of being older than that by skilled craftsmen of an earlier period.








    It is rare to find a date which is certain. Rippon cathedral and Bevery minster each have a date carved into a misericord, 1489 and 1520 respectively. Heraldic arms and a rare name, give evidence of an important church dignitary or a donor who might be traced.








    Foliage is a favourite subject, especially for supporters and this provides a good clue for dating.








    Early 13th century: conventional trefoil, cinquefoil, ball flower





    Mid 13th century: more refined





    End 13th century: more naturalistic





    14th century: more globular





    15 century: more conventional and standardised, flowers square or lozenge shaped








    The subject can be significant. For example the elephant carved on a misericord in Exeter cathedral gives a probable date of 1255-60. In 1255 Louis IX of France gave Henry III of England the gift of an elephant which was paraded through the streets of London. The carver may have actually seen it (though this id very unlikely) and carved it from memory. He probably worked from reports, or possibly a drawing made from observation which was passed to him. The supporters, heads of a man and a woman, possibly husband and wife, and donors of the stall, argue a similar date: the wife wears a fashionable head-dress and gorget of the period, her hair in a net.








    All figures are in contemporary dress, costume, armour, helmets give an indication of date. The last example illustrates this. At Ludlow a misericord shows a woman's head, wearing a horned head-dress and a hennin veil in fashion about 1430. She is bridled and with her large, ugly and grinning mouth, is believed to be a ';scold';. Is this a portrait of a bad tempered local lady of quality whose sharp tongue had mad her disliked?








    In a misericord in Exeter cathedral the flat topped helmet of a night (the ';Chevalier au Cygne';) dates it mid 13th century. The 12 century romance of the night of the swan was widely popular and at this time many of the nobility claimed decent from him. Wagner based his opera ';Lohengrin'; on this same legend.








    Other fashions assist dating: style of hair, beard, moustache, shoes, tunic, etc. The broad shoes and flat cap worn by Aquarius at Ripple give a date late 15th to mid 16th centuries.








    Style and ornamentation of the stalls in which misericords are found indicate date, though later alterations and rearrangements can confuse.Where can I find some research on a teenage girl during the 15th century in Italy?
    Well, first of all where did you find information about her? from the things she did, organizations she belonged to, if she inherited something or left an inheritance, if she made donations to a church... etc. you can obtain whatever records survive. It is not easy to do research on common people. The best record keeper for common people was the church, so i would contact to her parish and go from there.

    What do teenage boys want for christmas from there girlfriends?

    Im looking what to get for my boyfriend but I cant seem what to get him, and he wont tell me so idk....plz helpWhat do teenage boys want for christmas from there girlfriends?
    k girl im goin through the same drama so here does he skate if so buy him something that relates to that does he read? buy him a book if so. is he an artist buy him a skech pad but i do know the best thing u can give him is a mix cd of u and his fav songs and kiss him and hug him :)What do teenage boys want for christmas from there girlfriends?
    Yes, Boyfriends are hard to shop for, so I've heard.


    So I'm a teenage boy and I could help without saying Sex.


    Know what he does and give him something corallating to his talent or skill.


    Try and find a good movie both of you like on Dvd and watch it together afterwords.





    Bake him something. ( I know it sounds sexists. Sorry.)


    Make sure its personal.





    As a last resort give him a gift card....=/...really...last resort.
    Hi Monique.. A really nice and thoughtful gift that isn't too expensive is a half-moon pendant that both of you share.. It comes as a full-moon but can split and both of you have half, when your together it's full..:-)))


    Hope that helps.. Merry Christmas hon!!!
    Movies, Games, Cologne, if he's into video games anything along that line lol but I'm in the same predicament...what do teenage girls want for Christmas from their g/f
    something from the heart


    something from his fav hobby


    something from his fav sport or sports team


    stuffed animals


    and of course wat all teenage boy want you(but im not saying that as an acual option just a fact)
    everything and anything.





    but mostly its love and sex





    yeah, sorry to let you down. its something money cant buy
    24 hours alone with you .
    depending... if theyre 15 and older they want sex... if theyre 14 or 13 they want stupid things like video games and stuff like that...
    Bl0wjobs
    Cd, iTunes gift card .. clothes... cologne .... or if he likes jewelry or has any piercings get him that.
    depends. What is he into? little bit more info please
    sex
    haha... cute question!





    watch... most of the guys are going to be like


    SEX!


    lol

    Can a teenage girl beat up or overpower 45 year old man?

    Just wondering becuase theres this girl in my neighborhood who is only 14 or 15 but she stands at about 5'10'; or 5'11'; and my dad is only 5'2'; and she looks alot more physically fit than him. she always jokes around and say ';Id totally be able to take your little tiney daddy.'; haha i just wanna know if that would be possible. By the way she is very strong! hahaCan a teenage girl beat up or overpower 45 year old man?
    It is possible for a teenage girl to beat up a 45 year old man, some girls are really strong and are good fighters. However, a fight or physical contest between your dad and the girl does not need to happen because some very bad things could come out of it. If your dad were to hurt the girl, her being underage, he could be in a world of trouble. He could get in a lot of trouble if he touched her in the wrong place, even accidently. If the girl is stronger and in better shape than your dad, that does not mean that she could beat him in a fight. Many people your dad's age are determined that they will not let somebody that is much younger than them hurt them and will do anything that is necessary to protect themself no matter what kind of consequences they will have to face. People your dad's age often have a lot of experience and might know some dirty tricks that a younger person will not be ready for. If the girl tried to humiliate your dad the worst might come out of him. He needs to stay away from her and she needs to stay away from him.Can a teenage girl beat up or overpower 45 year old man?
    It's possible, and it is possible your dad could destroy her haha. It all depends on the persons abilities.
    It sounds like your dad may need to play indoors for awhile.





    What the hell is her problem anyway?';





    I totally agree with Felipe--tell that ***** to drop her drawers!
    i bet not. because the older they are the more experience they have with that.i wouldn't count on a younger person against a older person.
    Yes, she probably could, although men have more upper body strength, so it would not be easy for her.
    maybe if your dad is weak
    I wouldn't even waste time thinking about it.


    She just said that to act like a bad*ss. She's not going to attack your dad.
    Get them together, video tape it, and post it on youtube.


    Would make for some watching.
    no way all your dad has to do is ***** slap her and she would go crying home
    haha i dont think thats a girl lmao !





    but yeah she could epsecially if your dad is only 5'2';
    Heck yeah! Im quick on my feet and I have some kickboxing class experience!
    dunno but she sounds like a lesbian
    depends how badass she is
    why not?she can,but i think she is joking....

    What are some cultural, physical, psychoanalysis theories of teenage killers?

    what would be the reason's behind their acts?


    thanks!What are some cultural, physical, psychoanalysis theories of teenage killers?
    anomy


    lack of socialisation


    difficulties to communicate


    frustation


    rejections


    don't fit the standard normsWhat are some cultural, physical, psychoanalysis theories of teenage killers?
    Getting hurt..hurt turns to resentment


    Envy jelousy..it hurts something u cant have..then after hurt it turns to resentment

    What is the most offencive thing that a teenage boy could be called?

    it depends how well they take a joke, how seriously they take themselves and if theyre off a certain religion/race etc





    usually batty boy or pin dick doesnt go down to wellWhat is the most offencive thing that a teenage boy could be called?
    Immature isn't a offencive word but boys hate being called it, i watched a program with celebrities and one of them said the worst things girls called him was immatureWhat is the most offencive thing that a teenage boy could be called?
    that would depend on the boy.. for example if he was of a particular ethnic or religious group, then an offensive name pertaining to that group would be offensive.
    It changes from person to person, there's no Final Answer to that question. What would offend one chap, would amuse another (like me).
    im banking that the word gay is offensive to every boy (sexuality irrelevant)
    They get offended when you call their moms whores.





    Trust me.
    Someone who wants nothing but sex.
    say something about their mum, it always works lol!
    probley


    ******


    guys hate when you call them gay
    If they call you a faggggg ?
    a stupid twisted gay little ***** lol!
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  • For a teenage girl of an average height, what clothes size would look best?

    I'm 15 and 5'5.





    Would a 0,2,4,6,8,10, or 12,etc.. look best?For a teenage girl of an average height, what clothes size would look best?
    It really depends on your weight and how big you are. Just go to the store and try on lots of clothes until you find your size not too big and not too tight.For a teenage girl of an average height, what clothes size would look best?
    Go shopping and try different sizes on and see what you like best. Take a girlfriend with some fashion sense to help you out. It all depends if you want super tight clothes or just a regular fit or a baggy fit.
    im not sure on your weight but probably a 4 or 6. it just depends if your really skinny or not.
    um size 3-5 should be good for your height but it depends on how skinny or fat your r really
    Clothes that fit.
    em wats your weight?

    What are some cultural, physical, psychoanalysis theories of teenage killers?

    what would be the reason's behind their acts?


    thanks!What are some cultural, physical, psychoanalysis theories of teenage killers?
    anomy


    lack of socialisation


    difficulties to communicate


    frustation


    rejections


    don't fit the standard normsWhat are some cultural, physical, psychoanalysis theories of teenage killers?
    Getting hurt..hurt turns to resentment


    Envy jelousy..it hurts something u cant have..then after hurt it turns to resentment

    What is the most offencive thing that a teenage boy could be called?

    it depends how well they take a joke, how seriously they take themselves and if theyre off a certain religion/race etc





    usually batty boy or pin dick doesnt go down to wellWhat is the most offencive thing that a teenage boy could be called?
    Immature isn't a offencive word but boys hate being called it, i watched a program with celebrities and one of them said the worst things girls called him was immatureWhat is the most offencive thing that a teenage boy could be called?
    that would depend on the boy.. for example if he was of a particular ethnic or religious group, then an offensive name pertaining to that group would be offensive.
    It changes from person to person, there's no Final Answer to that question. What would offend one chap, would amuse another (like me).
    im banking that the word gay is offensive to every boy (sexuality irrelevant)
    They get offended when you call their moms whores.





    Trust me.
    Someone who wants nothing but sex.
    say something about their mum, it always works lol!
    probley


    ******


    guys hate when you call them gay
    If they call you a faggggg ?
    a stupid twisted gay little ***** lol!

    For a teenage girl of an average height, what clothes size would look best?

    I'm 15 and 5'5.





    Would a 0,2,4,6,8,10, or 12,etc.. look best?For a teenage girl of an average height, what clothes size would look best?
    It really depends on your weight and how big you are. Just go to the store and try on lots of clothes until you find your size not too big and not too tight.For a teenage girl of an average height, what clothes size would look best?
    Go shopping and try different sizes on and see what you like best. Take a girlfriend with some fashion sense to help you out. It all depends if you want super tight clothes or just a regular fit or a baggy fit.
    im not sure on your weight but probably a 4 or 6. it just depends if your really skinny or not.
    um size 3-5 should be good for your height but it depends on how skinny or fat your r really
    Clothes that fit.
    em wats your weight?

    What are the names of sad books for teenage girl to read (Im 13)?

    I love reading sad stories and i prefer if they are non-fiction.What are the names of sad books for teenage girl to read (Im 13)?
    Where the red fern grows.What are the names of sad books for teenage girl to read (Im 13)?
    SPEAK by Laurie halse anderson


    or





    That was then, this is now by S.E. Hinton %26lt;------------- Best book so far.

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    speak by laurie halse anderson


    cut by patricia mccormick


    thirteen reasons why by jay asher


    get well soon by Julie Halpern


    Lessons from a Dead Girl by Jo Knowles
    burned by elen hopkins
    Go Ask Alice.
    my sisters keeper


    kissed by an angel
    Isnt that if there real accounts? I thought that was.


    If not read


    Nicholas Sparks books


    My sisters keeper
    PUSH

    Why am I getting bugged from morons and teenage bimbos?

    Dolce %26amp; Gabanna, Kelly V and all the other fools. Hope I've put you in the picture. I get bored at work sometimes, but not that bored!


    SEE YAW!Why am I getting bugged from morons and teenage bimbos?
    http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AqsyGDLYR1o4z9BssBRmHxbsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20080929123840AAepmDBWhy am I getting bugged from morons and teenage bimbos?
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  • What would be a good car for a teenage boy?

    im looking to buy any foreign made vehicle 98-02 to drive to school. any suggestions?What would be a good car for a teenage boy?
    something cheap and fuel effecient


    most money will be on gasyou will probably wreck it unless you are a really good driverWhat would be a good car for a teenage boy?
    Something like a Corolla or Civic. Four door four cylinder would be the cheapest to drive (gas wise) AND insure!

    What movie is this from and its not Teenage Mutant Ninja turtles?

    A man in a turtle outfit says ';this is what you're doing'; (makes a talking hand gesture) ';and this is what I want you to do';(makes the mouth stop moving as though it stopped talking)';any questions'; and his catch phrase thing is ';Turtle Turtle'; HELP ME FIND THE ANSWER PLEASE!!!What movie is this from and its not Teenage Mutant Ninja turtles?
    The Master of Disguise with Dana CarveyWhat movie is this from and its not Teenage Mutant Ninja turtles?
    I know that is a Dana Carvey movie when he is an Turtle suit saying ';Turtle Turtle'; I think its Master of Disguise.





    I have never seen the movie, I just remember that scene from commercials and I say it all the time still.
    ';Master of Disguise'; starring Dana Carvey. He is some kind of secret agent and uses various disguises including a big turtle costume.
    power rangers maybe?


    IHNI=I have no idea
    Master of Disguise with Dana Carvey
    MASTER OF DISGUISE!!
    Master of Disguise

    What is a good halloween costume for a teenage girl?

    i go to an all girls hs and im a freshman we are allowed to dress up for halloween in my school


    we can do group costumes and stuff like that can you give me any suggestions


    nothing slutty plzWhat is a good halloween costume for a teenage girl?
    Cut a hole through a laundry crate, and wear it around your waiste. Then fill it with a bunch of clothes.


    Make and outfit out of recycled materials and be mother nature.


    Make a dress out of magazines and newspaper and be ';the press'; and wear sunglasses.


    Be a teacher at your school


    Be thing 1 and have someone else be thing 2


    Be a character from a board game (ex. candy land)


    Be Waldo from the books ';Where's Waldo?';


    Be a stereotypical French girl


    Vampiress


    Devil


    Ghost


    A clown


    A gypsie


    A character from a book


    An 80s girl


    A flapper


    An Egyptian or Greek Goddess


    A renaissance girl


    A person in jail


    A rock star


    A celebrity


    A hot nerd


    A jock


    The wicked Witch from the West


    Glenda the good Witch


    Dorothy


    The Tin Man


    The Cowardly Lion


    The Scare Crow


    Beetle Juice'


    Mrs. Lovett from Sweeney Todd


    Sweeney Todd


    A character from the Nightmare before Christmas


    A fairy


    An angel


    Jeepers Creepers


    A character from a tv show or movie


    Daphne or Velma, and get other friends to be the rest of the characters from Scooby Doo


    A baby


    A pirate


    An animal


    Your astrological sign


    Candy


    A zombie ballerina


    A ballerina


    A pop star


    A goth


    A mimeWhat is a good halloween costume for a teenage girl?
    http://www.zoogstercostumes.com/landing/teenhalloween.php
    I'll either go as snow white or a baby doll

    Where is a good place for a teenage girl to get boots?

    I'm going on 16 and I need some cute, pretty inexpensive boots. hopefully under 50$.


    Does anyone know where I can find some?Where is a good place for a teenage girl to get boots?
    Here are some pretty cute boots to look at:





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    http://www.6pm.com/n/p/p/7253126/c/252.h鈥?/a>Where is a good place for a teenage girl to get boots?
    Payless.


    Debs.


    K-Mart.


    Macy's.


    Delila's.


    Walmart.


    Target.


    ~~Not in any order~~


    Hope that helps(:


    Good Luck !
    Forever 21 and Macy's.
    Delia*s!
    mmm...


    walmart probably


    kmart


    dollar store...


    i don't really know what kind of boots you want...


    but walmart would probably be your best bet.


    there isn't really boots at hollister, aero, pacsun...


    there might be some at delia*s but i doubt they're cheap.





    it's going on spring so stores are probably getting rid of their boots

    Halloween costumes for a group of 4 teenage girls?

    Me and my friends wanna go out as one this year, but I have no clue what to do. We wanna do something crazy-cool and cute, and nothing lame. Any suggestions?





    (And we already did Harajuku Girls and Powerpuff Girls, so don't say those lol)Halloween costumes for a group of 4 teenage girls?
    lady bugs, bumble bees, butterflys, and... and... another bug?Halloween costumes for a group of 4 teenage girls?
    You should be the four south park boys Stan, Kyle, Kenny, and Cartman! To make it cute you could wear shorts instead of the winter pants they wear.





    Or you could go as the four Fanta Girls. You could paint yourselves yellow and be the Simpsons Family :D There is always the Fantastic Four also.





    Orrrr.....one of you could dress as santa, one as mrs. claus, one an elf, and the other a reindeer. It would be hilarious if you guys went as the Fruit of the Loom Guys! You could get those huge fruit suits....Hey, another idea is one person would dress as a dog catcher, and the other three would dress as dogs and wear leashes......I think that would be hilarious plus they could bark and growl at random times while walking by people...
    you could be greek goddesses. if you got two more you could all go as the six olympian temple goddesses.
    jonas brothers and big rob

    Halloween costumes for a group of 4 teenage girls?

    Me and my friends wanna go out as one this year, but I have no clue what to do. We wanna do something crazy-cool and cute, and nothing lame. Any suggestions?





    (And we already did Harajuku Girls and Powerpuff Girls, so don't say those lol)Halloween costumes for a group of 4 teenage girls?
    lady bugs, bumble bees, butterflys, and... and... another bug?Halloween costumes for a group of 4 teenage girls?
    You should be the four south park boys Stan, Kyle, Kenny, and Cartman! To make it cute you could wear shorts instead of the winter pants they wear.





    Or you could go as the four Fanta Girls. You could paint yourselves yellow and be the Simpsons Family :D There is always the Fantastic Four also.





    Orrrr.....one of you could dress as santa, one as mrs. claus, one an elf, and the other a reindeer. It would be hilarious if you guys went as the Fruit of the Loom Guys! You could get those huge fruit suits....Hey, another idea is one person would dress as a dog catcher, and the other three would dress as dogs and wear leashes......I think that would be hilarious plus they could bark and growl at random times while walking by people...
    you could be greek goddesses. if you got two more you could all go as the six olympian temple goddesses.
    jonas brothers and big rob
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  • Do teenage girls drink coffee at home? have their own mugs?

    lots of hip teenage girls these days have starbucks decaf-mochalates and such but what percentage of them will go into the kitchen and pour themselves a mug of like folgers coffee in the morning? if they do is it to seem more grown up?


    what age is normal for them to start doing this?Do teenage girls drink coffee at home? have their own mugs?
    no, they never make their own coffee nor do they drink it at home. They buy Starbucks because it's trendy and sweet, and totally unhealthy for you. They only seem as grown up as they act and behave.





    It's normal to start making their own coffee in college when they have no money.Do teenage girls drink coffee at home? have their own mugs?
    im not a girl, but i started drinking coffee when i was in my first year of culinary school, i needed to b in class at 2 in the morning, needed something to kick start me, now i drink it every morning, and love the taste of pure coffee, jst a little cream...
    I didn't start drinking coffee til I was 18 and in university. Then it was just the cheap school cafeteria coffee. Starbucks coffee is NASTY.





    My sister started drinking coffee when she was 15 or 16, but only on the weekends, and only at home. She just liked the taste - she didn't use it to ';wake up'; or especially not to feel like an adult. : /
    I am not a teen, nor am I a girl but I did start drinking coffee at age 10 and haven't stopped for the last 13 years.





    By the way, it doesn't stunt growth either (I'm 6'1';)
    Im 16 and for a couple of years I have been having a coffee in the morning sometimes. A few times a week in winter, less in summer. It is not to seem more grown up, thats the stupidest thing to say! I just like it and enjoy it, it wakes me up.


    Why do adults have it?.....to be cool? DUH!


    Most teenagers hate the taste but those who enjoy it start around 13 or 14 of drinking it occasionally.


    Yes I have my own mugs that I also use for tea etc
    I for one am 15 and would neeever choose starbucks over a homemade cup of coffee (which i drink everymorning) =)

    How hard would it be for a teenage girl to lose excess skin after losing 60 pounds (1/3 of her body weight)?

    This would be without surgery though.How hard would it be for a teenage girl to lose excess skin after losing 60 pounds (1/3 of her body weight)?
    Because your skin has such youthful elasticity it will probably tighten up on its own. It won't be overnight or over a month but it begins to tighten with every pound that you lose. It may take from 6 months to a year but stick to your goal and it will happen. Using a good moisturizer with cocoa butter and Vitamin E really helps. Walking and riding a bicycle will help you to lose the weight faster and also firm up your body. You don't have to do a lot of fast walking/running to get it done; just walk and you'll burn the calories. If you set your goals too high you won't achieve them and might start back on your old habits that caused you to gain weight. Set realistic goals for yourself. Congratulations on the beautiful NEW you! You rock!How hard would it be for a teenage girl to lose excess skin after losing 60 pounds (1/3 of her body weight)?
    You can drink a lot of water; lift weights. That's about it. If you don't have much I wouldn't worry. But I've known people who get rashes from the extra skin and would benefit from surgery. One doctor told a co worker of mine that she couldn't have the surgery until she was finished having children because then her skin couldn't stretch with pregnancy.

    What is a good weight for a teenage girl who is 5' 2';?

    i know it's kind of the wrong category but i figured i'd get more answers hereWhat is a good weight for a teenage girl who is 5' 2';?
    ask ur doctorWhat is a good weight for a teenage girl who is 5' 2';?
    110lb. I'm that height and that's what my doctor says I should aim for.
    you should way three pounds or you are morbidly obese
    110 I think
    I'm the same height *maybe a littlebit taller* and I'm 119, and the doctor says that's a normal weight.
    102 or 105.
    Id say about 100 to 110- but as long as you are healthy it dosen't really matter (not that i'm saying you can be 200 pounds and think thats healthy!
    I'm 5'2 1/2 and i'm 90 pounds. I'm NOT anorexic or bulimic (cause I eat way too much %26amp; I love food) but I have a fast metabolism.
    i think it depends on what age u are...if ur 13-14 u should be on the lighter side and around 80-110 pounds...if ur an older teen and around 16-18 u should be a bit heavier and around 108-145 pounds because ur body is pretty much fully grown though it may still increase in width in areas most likely until ur in ur early 20's...its not really about weight, its more about how healthy a lifestyle u lead and how active u are. if ur leading a healthy lifestyle, eating all ur food groups and ur not over eating. u know, getting enough camcium and vitamin D and ur staying active for an hour a day, ur good. ur at the weight ur body should be at reguardless of how u compare to the other girls. a lot of girls tend to gain about 10- 20 pounds from age 12-17 and its all natural really if ur leading a healthy life just because ur becomming a woman. some even shoot up 30-40 if they have a big growth spurt from in that time and are on the taller side (5'8'; and up) by their late teen years.
    like 95 pounds.. or like 100
    100lb-120lb.
    probably like 110 to 115

    My teenage son has eczema and acne on his very dry, red and irritated face. Any advice on treatment please?

    We are trying to avoid cortisone although have used it in the past without much success. He is very uncomfortable and his face is extremely dry and rough.My teenage son has eczema and acne on his very dry, red and irritated face. Any advice on treatment please?
    Overnight see if the system is responding to Starch. You can gently give a rice starch cover overnight.


    Wash the skin gently in cool or warm water, not hot, and don鈥檛 bathe bathe too often have dry skin.


    Use mild unscented soaps moisturize skin with bath oil or shower.


    Keep nails short to reduce damage to the skin by scratching.


    Dress lightly and wear soft, nonscratchy clothes.


    Apply a cold compress for of itching.


    Apply overthe-counter 1 percent hydro cortisone creams to relieve itching.


    Protect the skin from contact with harsh chemicals and substances to allergic; use latex gloves and clothing,if possible.








    There are lots of alternative therapy for this


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    Try therapies like these, but definitely it depends on the individuals system response.My teenage son has eczema and acne on his very dry, red and irritated face. Any advice on treatment please?
    My daughter had eczema and as an acupuncturist I too wanted to avoid harsher meds if possible. I learned a lot about self care tips and ended up collecting them into a website. It is a free informational site and not selling anything. I am just trying to share info that helped us.


    There are pages there about washing, diet, allergies, products and more. I am sure you can find some useful info to help your son. The website is:


    www.myskinbetter.com


    The first piece of advice is to wash less frequently and with a very gentle natural soap. Use only warm water, not hot as that strips more natural oils. After washing, while still damp apply a very simple, natural moisturizer. This should get things started.
    Often skincare products can contain unnecessary ingredients such as colors or fragrance.





    But also look out for harsh preservatives, like parabens, which can trigger an eczema flare-up.





    I found a really useful site that lets you compare the ingredients of several leading brands, its from a company called exederm





    Exederm make ultra hypoallergenic skin care products for adults and kids with eczema or dermatitis





    http://www.exederm.com
    Please, try this! take Omega 3 fish oil tablets 3 times daily with food.


    I have really bad excema and i got fed up with it. I'd tried everything, id read the reviews on this and thought id give it a go. It works for a LOT of people.


    I've been taking them for 3 weeks now and my excema is clearing up! it should take a few months to go completely.


    Do this plus moisturise, drink lots of water :)





    try and work out what triggers it, like makes it get worse. For me, its heat and allergies.
    This is a really hard question to answer,


    Someone had send me this website and you'll come to a site that has all the info you need .





    Hope this helps out some way :)





    sources :





    http://www.syubrawi.com/skin-care-suppli鈥?/a>


    http://the-hair-care.blogspot.com


    http://www.syubrawi.com/acne-skin-care
    For more details about Ecema Treatment visit the Blog: http://myskin123.blogspot.com/2008/07/eczema-treatment.html
    use a low oil lotion for the dryness. And if eczema acts up put ice or something cold on it, =]
    olive oil...its natural and moisturises well for the skin...you could try it.

    My teenage sons girlfriend has PMS and is treating him bad. Any advice for him?

    They have only been together for a couple of weeks and everything has been good until today. She is moody, uncommunicative and he is really stressed out about the situation. I told him he can't take it so hard and not to worry, but he has little experience with this and could use some helpful advice.My teenage sons girlfriend has PMS and is treating him bad. Any advice for him?
    Im sure if he's a teenager he knows about periods already. I would just tell him that she is on ';her time of the month'; and to just be a little bit more carfull on his choise of words, what he does, ect. Girls have it hard when they're piriod comes, just tell him what you would want a guy to say and do to you when your on your period.





    Hope this helps a little.


    God bless.


    :)My teenage sons girlfriend has PMS and is treating him bad. Any advice for him?
    I agree with anni, just tell him how things work. No need to get into details, just tell him why she's acting how she is, that she still cares for him, and that it'll pass. Tell him to go into mental coma mode when she's around and has P.M.S. THATS HOW I SURVIVE HELL WEEK. lol only kidding but ya, tell him how it is. Also, if it isn't PMS and she continues to treat him badly, tell him to stand up for himself and kick her to the curb.
    just tell him to give her space and she will apperciate it. its a hard time for me and my boyfriend is always understanding and never gets angry if i lash out against him. my advice its the hormones she cant help it!if she treated you like this all the time than i would be worried, but if not don't worry....its only a couple of days!thank goodness :)
    He could use some distraction. Find a teen novel/book on the same problem? Make him do his homework? I defy anyone to be thinking about a girl friend if they are struggling with a math problem set.





    Make sure to put in a calendar. If the relationship makes it past this bump it will be interesting if it really is PMS.






    Well you are the best one to give it to him. You can relate to her right? Tell him how you felt when you were that age and what it did to your personality.
    Tell him to give her space.





    If she starts bitching, tell him just to let her yell.


    Like you said he doesn't have to worry about anything.





    Just let time pass and everything will go back to normal.



    PMS is evil to us women. It's natural for us to get moody during this time.





    As far as being uncommunicative, that's a totally different story.
    be sure to tell him what is going on with her and not to worry about her and that if he can't take that every month then don't be by her when she has PMS.
    just tell him ';she has PMS, she'll be fine in a day or two';





    it's not that she doesnt like him anymore, its just hormones :]
    PMS doesn't last long and doesn't come with the same moods month for month usually. So he should just avoid her while she's PMSing.
    Ok if he is stressing over it then tell him just to stay away from her until it passes!
    leave her alone it just means shes growing up . shell get over it in a few days . try telling your son to avoid her for a wile
    Have him check into '; Ralph's PMS Shelter for Men';...after all a week is a terrible thing to waste...LOL !
    Tell him to comfort her.
    slap her


    PMS is all in your head
    tell him to be nice and steer clear when she's angry

    What are some fun board games for teenage girls?

    I need to know some fun adult board games that you can buy in the UK...I am thinking along the line a cranium and tabooWhat are some fun board games for teenage girls?
    I always think of chess and checkers, however the game of Life also is very enjoyable.What are some fun board games for teenage girls?
    Check out this list. It's a teenage girl asking advice on which game to get. There are some really good games, here:





    http://www.boardgamegeek.com/geeklist/1290





    I would suggest Apples to Apples, Queen's Necklace, Ticket to Ride, Hey That's My Fish, or Carcassonne. These are all very good games that will not disappoint.
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  • If teenage Jesus was on earth today, what sport do you think he would play?

    And would he use his magical powers to score more goals?If teenage Jesus was on earth today, what sport do you think he would play?
    Jesus peace be upon him was a wise, modest and honorable prophet.





    In Islam, we have some few events and stories about Jesus Life.





    .If teenage Jesus was on earth today, what sport do you think he would play?
    I think he would play baseball because he sure did get angry and had the strength to turn over the tables and flog the men selling in the synagogue. He was a carpenter too so there was lifting involved in making furniture from trees in cut down. He knew how to fish so he was definitely an outdoors kind of guy. He had a boat and could probably sail and make the team. He could probably do shock put and power lifting. This is fun. Thanks.
    roller jam


    the only sport worth watching


    and Both Mary's would be on the ladies team


    Holy Roller Jam?


    or


    water polo


    Being able to walk on water would be an advantage.
    Karate.
    I could see him playing something like tennis, badminton, or volleyball.


    But no, he wouldn't cheat. It's Jesus!
    Vodka
    Is hide-and-go-seek a sport? If so, that's the sport he'd play, and he would always be it.
    Tennis.





    And Jesus wouldn't cheat. He'd be honest and fair.
    Soccer. :) And no, because Jesus played fair.
    I think that He would be in the chess club.
    Baseball, and no, he would not cheat.
    well what sports do jewish people usually play?
    Wrestling, with John of course dear...

    How much money do you give your teenage kids for school shopping 13-16?

    I would not give them money, that is not going to end well. Most likely, they are going to blow it on video games or something not so school related.





    What stops you from going to the store and picking up their school supplies with them? My mom would take me with her and she would let me pick out what I wanted, as far as folder colors, type of erasers I wanted, ect..





    We usually spent 30 to 45 dollars on supplies, and for clothes, mom would spent about three hundred for two kids.How much money do you give your teenage kids for school shopping 13-16?
    i quit disagree with not giving them any money as stated above.





    i would give them 60-70 euros a month. for which theyd have to buy clothing and do fun stuff.





    ill explain why i feel this way:


    - giving them money teaches them more about being responsible with money than doing the shopping for them.


    - the amount should be just to little to do one shopping spree. this teaches them that if they want something, theyre going to have to save for it. meaning sacrificing something else, for 1 or 2 months to get the amount to buy what they need. this will teach them to apreciate the value of money








    a 16 y/o is a slight different story, as i think 15-16y/o should get a job and earn money stocking shelves.How much money do you give your teenage kids for school shopping 13-16?
    I don't give them money. Instead, school shopping is a one day family event that begins early and, sometimes, ends late.





    First, we hit Wal-Mart for the actual school supplies. While we are there, we generally take care of underwear and socks, too. If there somthing is appealling and it fits, I get it.





    My greatest challenge is jeans and shoes. By the end of the day, each of my kids has had at least one good smack upside the head for back talk, I am exhausted and $1000 poorer (I have 7 children).
    I don't get any money, I just say what I need we'll buy it.





    Considering that I usually only need more supplies (pencils, pens, etc.) it is usually quite cheap. I don't need to be given money and shop extensively, a pencil is a pencil.





    Unless you meant something else by ';school shopping';.
    depends where were shoppin and how deep the ck book is, I spend 10X on kids than myself, the kidz have the ';keepin up with the Jone's'; issues, they gotta have the latest fashion, to keep em happy good kids, they get it, but I make em work for it, dishes,laundry, housecleanin, boys mow the grass, nothins free
    My father used to take me to the mall and give me $100.00. He told me to meet him back at the coffee shop in 1 hr. After I did that, He checked my clothes to make sure there weren't any spaghetti strapped shirts. He then took me to a department store to let me pick out the supplies. $100 doesn't buy much these days tho-





    I think it all depends on how much you have to play with...and how much you can depend on your children to purchase the correct things. These days my daughter only gets a few brand new outfits and the rest we get from the thrift stores. She will be using her ';last year's'; back pack as $$ is really tight for me now.
    im 16 and my parents don't give me any money. i save my money from holidays %26amp; birthdays then spend it on clothes and such. so every year i have about 1,500 to buy presents for others, and things for myself. i would get a job but not too many places hire 16 year olds and since the economy is doing horrible i dont think i could EVER find a job!
    Basically, just enough for what they need. Let them mix and match last year's jeans, with new shirts - of course they'll need socks, undies, new backpacks, and shoes. The rest of clothes - they can pick them up as they go throughout the school year. I would not give them more than $300 a piece - that's plenty to start out with.
    I always had to work for my school shopping, but hey they are not earning it so you really should go with them to see what they are buying, that's being a good parent, not a parent that let's there kids go crazy with the american express card.
    Uniform?


    That comes to about 拢150.. ($300)


    Supplies, Pencils, Pens, Notebooks, etc about 拢10/$20


    Bag - 拢15/拢30


    so, roughly.. 拢175/$350
    I don't have teenagers but my brothers get a limit of $200 each...that's for new clothes and school supplies. I usually take them shopping and they never really spend that much though.
    I don't give them money, I take them shopping, I don't go over the top but I get them everything they need.
    I'm going to take them shopping until they are 16, when they have a job and earn their own money.
    $100 to buy everything they need, clothes included.
    Gave them nothing except a (very nice) lunch box. What have they got at school that the kids must buy?? At exorbitant inflated prices!


    Peace.
    You don't give them anything, you do the shopping yourself.
    My rents go shopping with me but so do my friend!!! I ususally spend lyk 800 to 900 dollars
    $400-$500
    my mom used to take me shopping. she never GAVE me money.
    $200
    None. Take them and be a parent.
    each $300
    my mom goes to the store with me
    tell them to get a job
    if they're over 15 they can get a job, so...NONE...if they're 13-14, maybe 10-20 a week, but they have to earn it...
    a car(a 2010 mustang or a ferrari)
    25-30 i would say depends if they are getting a new backpack.
    $10,000 dollars each. Do it, and tell the other parents too.
    A Dodge Viper, not to much $money$.
    My dad gives me and my brother $3,000 each.
    bout 500

    My teenage son has a mood disorder and is out of control?

    My son has had a mood disorder dx 4 yrs ago %26amp; in March he went to residential tx finally after a life time of hell at home, school %26amp; everywhere. He was suppossed to stay one year, but his dad took him out after 31/2 mos. He claims he has greatly improved. He did not give it a chance to work and my son just screamed %26amp; fought w/me for 11/2hr. then went outside and jumped all over the hood of the car we are trying to sell %26amp; hit it with a skateboard denting it from front to back. I can't get his dad or his family to agree there is a serious problem. He has been dx 4 times, but they wont agree with any Dr., school district, child protective services or anyone that tries to help. In his last regular school year, he went thru 5 schools in 1 yr cuz of his uncontrollable behavior. We finally had a yr or more of guaranteed peace and tx, but his father refused it. I don't know what to do anymore I feel like I am going to lose my mind. I have to cry and hide in my room to get away from him.My teenage son has a mood disorder and is out of control?
    I work for aplace called BOST. it is a waiver facility for mentally ill, mood disorder people, mentally retarded and autistic people. I am the case manager there and see this thing every day with my clients. But before they started the program they were worse than they are now. He really needs some medication for this, a doctor def. Pschycologist and look into some kind of medicaid waiver program. They train staff to deal with these kinds of things and also train you as well to better control things that happen with your son. I dont know where you live to help you find somewhere in your area to see if they have have such program. Your husband is so wrong to not want to do anything about this. I do believe a special program , meds and a dr will alleviate some of these problems, even though your son will have this for the rest of his life he will be much better in his intermittent displosive behavior. Which he will probably be diagnosed with when he sees a Dr. IF you can get ahold of me some way in email or im i will so further help u with this situation as much as i can ncooper69_2003@yahoo.com I do believe in maybe the police to help you in case he is hurting himself or someone else in your family but i also believe it will make things worse for him and will not help him get better in any wayMy teenage son has a mood disorder and is out of control?
    It sounds like there is a lot of bickering and tension between you and his father. Is this the way things have always been? Ask yourself how much that might have to do with the state of things and try to get into FAMILY counseling with your son AND his father.

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    call the police and child protective services you dont even have to give your name. tell them what is going on with him. if they check him then no one can take him out until the dr. says he is ok. remember you can keep your name annomous if you dont wnt anyone to know who did it.good luck.
    Simple, call the police and have him charged with vandalism and destruction of private property, if his dad won't deal with him, then let the state deal with him.
    Have him involatarly addmited into a hospital or clinic yourself and make sure your the only person that is allowed to take him out or even better make sure he is not allowed out unless the doctors say he is well enough.


    Its not fair on you to go through all of this but im sure you do not want to call the police (unless it gets to the stage where he is psycally harming you). My boyfriend is like this, but a week after taking his meds religiously he started getting better and better and now he doesnt rage at all. So getting your son started on a medication that works, and making sure he sticks to it is vital!


    I hope all goes well!
    If he is under the age of 18, get a social worker with the help of your family doctor or with the aid of a child advocacy center in your community. These people can help you with paperwork to get a guardian ad litem through the courts who will then help you to petition the court for him to be placed in the treatment facility REGARDLESS of what his father wants. Also, each and every time he starts to cause a ruckus with you or anyone else at the house, immediately call 911 and report it. They will have to come out and make a formal investigation and it will create a 'paper trail' for you. The more you have on record to back up the need for him to get serious treatment, the better your chances of getting him the help he so desperately needs.





    Best of luck to you.

    What to do with disrespectfull and troubled teenage girls?

    I have two teenage daughters. They are both very disrespectfull and do not follow the rules of our house. I give them times to be home, they come home when they feel like it. They have been caught drinking and they think it is not a big deal. I have tried several different punishments, NOTHING works. I don't think hitting is the answer!! Please help me to figure out what to do !!What to do with disrespectfull and troubled teenage girls?
    Call CPS. YOU can call to file a report against them,just like they can call on you. I just had to have the number circled and posted by the phone to make my kids KNOW I was serious. Parents DO NOT have to take disrespecting behaviour. If they won't let you ';dicipline'; them, then they can figure it out. Juvenile jail and foster homes are far less appealing than ';dissing'; the parents.What to do with disrespectfull and troubled teenage girls?
    thanks for all of your answers, well a couple I don't agree with.


    I wish I had the money to send them to boot camp!! Maybe then they would not think life at home was not so bad.

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    Take away everything in their rooms except for their beds. No stereo, tv, CD players, video games, telephones, anything that is fun. If they are not behaving, then why are they going out and doing things? They have no priviledges at all until they straighten up. Sitting on their bed staring at the walls will get very boring after a while. If they try to leave the house anyhow, then call the cops and report them as runaways. Find out how to have them declared incorrigible by the courts. It probably will not go that far if you are strict and stick to the rules you have set.
    Well for me, i think them disrespecting you calls for them not to be entitled to the little things that we as parents do for are kids. Do they have cell phones? if so have them shut off, Do they have computers? remove them from their rooms., If they dont do chores without giving lip service? They cant go out. If they leave anyway, when they come home there makeup and curling irons will be gone and hidden. Take their doors from them. If they cant respect you then why respect their privacy. These are things kids earn for bieng respectful kids. None of the above things do kids NEED. And unless the are willing to earn them thru respecting then they shouldnt have them. JUst a few ideas that i use. My kid knows im serious when it comes to respecting me. And knows that if she discrespects me, i will and have taken the things that she only deserves being a respectful teenager
    kick them out.let them find out what is like to be on the streets with no one to take care of them.
    Boot camp. Therapy. Ground them. Give them no room. Don't let them go out. Take away their cell phones. Let them know that you are the boss.
    to tell you the truth that is what they need they haven't been getting it. i know what you are feeling i am a mother of teenagers and i been there. and i know what my problem was i didn't whip them i let them think they can do or say anything. now my oldest is 16 and he have change he don't get into trouble anymore in school. but the other son he is 14 and he use not get into truoble it use to be my 16 year old but now they have change spots. what i did to my 16 year old was i took him to my local county jail and i let the cops talk to him and they took him in the back where the guys where and the guys back there talked to him and told him that if he don't change the way he is acting he would be in there with them. and when my son came out of that place he was so afraid and he told me that he don't wont to be in a place like that. but after that it last about a few months and he started back doing the samething over again. and i talked to him and told him that i don't wont him to get into trouble and more and he told me that he would stop and he did. now he don't get into trouble at all in school. but now it's my other son. but it have been a week since i talked to my other son and i told him the same thing and he said he will try not to get into trouble. take them to your local county jail and let them take them to talk to some of those ladies that is locked up. if that don't work maybe you need to send them to boot camp. do what ever it take to get them to change their ways. where are their dad what do he say about the way they are acting. good luck after the storm a rainbow will come.
    tear her up and if that don't work kick her to curb nah just sit her down and if she don't want to listen whop her and if she threatens to call the popo's if you whop her good she won;t take the computer out of her room the phone cell phone send her to boot camp or whatever cuz now day these kids getting to out of hand and they need some good disipline and they don't need to be mistreating you like that and don't feel like a bad parent cuz you grown she ain't noting but a little teenager adn you deserve that respect from your child
    i would put them on a street corner so they can be what they truely are,
    Raising a teen is very difficult. However, you cannot just throw them out on the street! They are your responsibility until they turn 18, so you need to find an effective method of discipline.





    First, if they do not come home when they are told, they do not go out again! If you have to sleep in their room to be sure that they don't sneak out, then do that! They don't sound like they deserve to have any priveleges, so stop giving them any. Make them earn it!!





    You stated that nothing works, but your didn't go into detail about what you have tried. It sounds like they need you to get really firm with them and stay that way. DO NOT BEND!! They cannot be trusted to make good decisions when they are away from you, so don't let them be away from you. You need to become their very best friend and their worst nightmare all rolled into one! Be home when they get out of school to be sure that they are coming home. If they don't come home, start picking them up after school. When they start to complain about your new rules, remind them that they have themselves to thank! Also remind them that you love them and that God has given you a responsibility to be their mother, and no matter how tough it gets, that is what you are going to be! Let them know that you are doing it so that they can have the best future possible!





    Be firm, and be consistent! Make them earn back priveleges by getting good grades, being respectful to you and each other, doing what they are asked, when they are asked, etc....





    Get tough now, before it really gets out of hand. It may be a good idea to contact the parents of all of their friends too. Get to know who they are running with. Stay involved in their lives at all times, no matter what.





    Good luck!
    Teenagers are headaches, aren't they?


    I will still love them no matter how they behave and what they do. Did you show that you love them? Were you disrespectful to them in the past? Punishment only alienates a relationship. You need to be reconnected to your daughers so that you can communicate with them. it is easy to have a relationship messed up, it is hard to rebuild it. I suggest you try a lot of patience and show nothing but love. They need people to understand them. If you as a mother could understand them, it is a great treasure to them.





    I used to work in a wild school district, where no teaching could be carried out, and paper ball fighting went on everyday. One day someone decided to take on the teacher, so all the papers hit the teacher on the head while he was writing on board. After the frenzy of throwing stopped, he turned around and faced everyone with a sad smile and asked: ';before we start our lesson, Can we clean our room, please?'; Everyone was astonded--because they were expecting the teacher to yell or scream--:'; who did this?'; --What will be the consequence?!--Suspended? Expelled?


    As if he knew what went in their mind:'; he said:'; It really does not matter who did this, I just believe we all deserve to work in a better environment. let's clean it up.'; -- After they gathered all the paper balls, he actually played a game with them: --shoot all the ball into the trash can at a distance -- they had fun and class started. Later, his class was the best in school that actually carried on academics.


    One of the ways to deal with kids-- is your behavior should not be predictable to them. They like to see you to lose control, show signs of provocations. Keep yourself in check so they do not laugh behind you. Love them and outsmart them.
    Teens are hard cases. They learn from young and it seems that they don't have any respect. Were you very soft with them when they were younger? They need to have tough love. Does your town have a curfew? If so make them abide by it and if they don't call the cops. Start taking things from them or everything if necessary. You can't expect them to respect you if you don't show them why to respect you. Do they work and help pay the bills? If not then they need to learn who house that is.
    I don't believe hitting is the answer either. I also think that when they are at certain age, especially teenagers that punishments do not work either. Actually, punishments in my opinion for teenagers are a rush! It's just another hurtle for them to try and get pass. It makes the things they do even more exciting and challenging and remember, teenagers are going through harmones that actually play with their thoughts. They are stuck between being too young for a lot of things but feeling older and want to express those things. One thing I do suggest is, saying what you mean and always mean what you say. If you do punish, make sure the punishment fits the crime. If you do punish, make sure you stick to that punishment. And also, make sure they are equally punished. Another thing, try talking to them and not at them. Try putting yourself back to when you were their age. (I am 43 and yes, when I was a teenage I did some things that I can't believe I am still alive..lol) We parents have to remember that we did some crazy things when we were kids and we shouldn't hide that fact. Let them know, you are normal, not some super hero. Show them your underbelly. Ask them out to ';their'; favorite place to eat and start talking. Number one, DO NOT ASK THEM WHATS ON THEIR MINDS, THEY WON'T TELL YOU! They will resort to silence, reason being, is they feel you won't understand anyway. Besides, they are mad at you right now. You have become their enemy, although I am so sure they love you. Just start talking....tell them experiences you went through. Laugh too. Let them know you completely understand their confusion right now and express that, as a parent you have to try to guide them onto the right path BUT that you know they need to learn from their mistakes as well. Be loving and supportive and then stand your ground. Tell them, that although you understand, you still have to enforce the rules. If they say nothing back, they heard you. Eat, talk, hug them and then move on, Hopefully some of it will sink in. Keep talking to them, because that is the one thing we all lack.......conversation.


    Good Luck